disclaimer - this is applicable only to high elo relationships, meaning you have to have a bit of prior dating experience before this method shines.
everyone wants a fulfilling relationship.
it is a fundamental human desire, but the problem is many of us let other emotions impede progress to achieving that goal; whether that be from ego, addictions, or lack of initiative. i’m oversimplifying by lumping everything into those categories but i think it covers the majority of relationship failings. regardless, how do we maintain focus on the main objective - saving the princess imprisoned in the castle, leading to an everlasting relationship?
did mario ever try sitting bowser down and talking it out? talking clearly and effectively can solve many issues in the real world. of course many harbor hidden agendas or unreasonable expectations, so at times an unstoppable force meets an immovable object and we are forced to step back and call it quits.
but what if both sides agreed to be neither?
if both parties agree to communicating wholeheartedly and follow through - you did it, mission complete. a mutual understanding is present and all arguments are temporary, because in the end the objective is the same. long term companionship.
this might sound completely idealized based on your life experiences. if that is the case, you either do not have enough relationship experience, or you haven’t self reflected enough. it is up to you to swallow this red heart shaped pill.
this does not mean it will always be smooth sailing. there will be times where you question yourself, your partner, or have arguments that will hurt one of you.
it is inevitable. if you can weather through the waves and make sure it is not a pattern, you are preparing the bedrock that hardens your future together.
here is the tragic part… the starting line is ambiguous.
the partner meant for you won’t reveal themselves predictably. it will be when you least expect it, but you will have needed to adopt this strategy to whip out at the beginning of the game. put yourself out there with the best head on your set of shoulders and find someone who multiplies your life enjoyment. it is a low win-rate battle with a chance of having two happy winners.